Amicable Divorce?

Divorce

Amicable Divorce?

By Jeff Van Fleet

Is the phrase “amicable divorce” an oxymoron? Plainly speaking, no. But it takes effort.

Amicable – adjective –meaning: (of relations between people) having a spirit of friendliness; without serious disagreement or rancor.

Divorce – noun – the legal dissolution of a marriage by a court or other competent body.

The word amicable and divorce can coexist peacefully as demonstrated by their definitions. The important step to achieving an amicable divorce is to treat the divorce as a business break-up, and not a soul-wrenching process of insults and accusations.

In my experience there are two main advantages to an amicable divorce. The first is cost. If the parties can agree to a resolution, they avoid months of litigation, attorney’s fees, appraisals, mediation costs, and other costs. The second advantage is for parents. By modeling behavior that your children can learn from, they will transition in a more successful and healthy manner.

  1. Steps to success:

Step 1: Make business decisions, not emotional decisions.

Step 2: Stop focusing on the past.

Step 3: Be open and forthcoming in disclosing relevant information. Hiding information only creates distrust and spoils the process.

Step 4: When children are involved, their needs come first. The needs of the parents, are secondary.

Step 5: Use a worksheet such as the one provided below to ensure no details are missed.

Step 6: Use an attorney. An experienced divorce and family law attorney will ensure your divorce meets all legal standards. An attorney can only represent one side, so don’t ask them to give advice to your spouse, because they cannot under our rules of ethics. However, your spouse may choose to be self-represented (pro-se) and negotiate directly with the attorney on their own.

An amicable divorce is possible. No one “wins” in a divorce, instead, work to allow everyone to survive with respect, dignity, and money still in their bank accounts. A Judge once tolf my client, in Divorce, the goal is to find an agreement that you can live with, but probably don’t love. That agreement will be better than anything the Court will likely order.

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The information on this website is for general information purposes only. Nothing on this site should be taken as legal advice for any individual case or situation. This information is not intended to create, and receipt or viewing does not constitute, an attorney-client relationship.

Amicable Divorce Worksheet

Petitioner:                                                                                             (P) This is the person filing.

Respondent:                                                             (R)

Part I: Assets and Debts

Real Estate (Marital and NonMarital)

Address:                                                           Sell Petitioner Respondent

City:

 Cheyenne      Casper     Laramie     Gillette      Rock Springs     Sheridan     Green River      Evanston     Riverton     Jackson     Cody     Rawlins     Lander      Torrington     Powell     Douglas     Worland     Wheatland     Other:                                                                                   

 

Address:                                                           Sell Petitioner Respondent

City:

 Cheyenne      Casper     Laramie     Gillette      Rock Springs     Sheridan     Green River      Evanston     Riverton     Jackson     Cody     Rawlins     Lander      Torrington     Powell     Douglas     Worland     Wheatland     Other:                                                                                   

Details for sale (If applicable):

 

 

Motor Vehicles and/or Recreation Vehicles

The parties agree to the following terms relating to all Motor Vehicles & Recreation Vehicles owned.

  1. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  2. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  3. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  4. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  5. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent

Details for sale (currently titled in whose name, financing, etc.):

 

 

 

Cash on Hand, Bank, Checking, and Savings Accounts

The parties agree to the following terms relating to all accounts.

  1. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  2. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  3. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  4. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  5. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  6. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  7. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  8. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  9. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  10. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent

Furniture, Household Goods, and Other Personal Property

The parties agree to the following terms relating to all furniture, household goods and other personal property.

The parties have already split all furniture, household goods and other personal property.

or

  1. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  2. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  3. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  4. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  5. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  6. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  7. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  8. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  9. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  10. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent

Stocks, Bonds, Mutual Funds, Securities & Investment Accounts

 

The parties do not have any accounts.

or

  1. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  2. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  3. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  4. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  5. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent

 

Pension, Profit Sharing, Military Retirement or Retirement Funds

 

The parties do not have any funds.

or

  1. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  2. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  3. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  4. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  5. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  6. Other:

 

Business Interests/Assets

 The parties do not have any assets in this category.

or

  1. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  2. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  3. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  4. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  5. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent

Miscellaneous Assets  

 The parties do not have any assets in this category.

or

  1. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  2. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  3. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  4. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  5. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent

Debts

The parties do not have any debt.

or

  1. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  2. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  3. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  4. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  5. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  6. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  7. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  8. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  9. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent
  10. .                                                                 Sell   Petitioner   Respondent

Other:

 

 Taxes

 

The parties will file a joint separate married filing separately tax return for ___________________________ (identify tax year(s)).

State and Federal refunds and/or money owed will be allocated as follows:   Respondent:  _____% and Petitioner: ______%.

Other:

 

Other Terms

Identify below any agreements not identified above

 

Part II: Parenting Plan

The child(ren) are:

 

Full Name of Child Present Address Sex Date of Birth
       
       
       
       

 

Allocation of Parental Responsibilities (Decision-making)

Legal custody shall be granted to Respondent   Petitioner         Shared/Joint

Type of Major Decision-Making

 

Joint Respondent Petitioner
Educational, if needed specify:
Medical/Dental/Mental Health, if needed specify:
Religious, if needed specify:
Extracurricular and Recreational Activities, if needed specify:

 

Other (please identify):
Other (please identify):
Other (please identify):
Other (please identify):

 

Allocation of Parental Responsibilities (Parenting Time)

  1. Weekday and Weekend Schedule during the School Year

 The child(ren) will be in the care of the Respondent.  List the days of the week and times.

 

 

 The child(ren) will be in the care of the Petitioner.  List the days of the week and times.

 

 

Transportation and drop-off/pick-up arrangements will be as follows:

 

 

  1. Summer Schedule

The weekday and weekend schedule above will apply for all 12 calendar months with no specific changes during the summer.

or

During the summer months, the child(ren) will be in the care of the Respondent.  List the days of the weeks and times.

 

 

During the summer months, the child(ren) will be in the care of the Petitioner.  List the days of the weeks and times.

 

 

Transportation and drop-off/pick-up arrangements will be as follows:

 

  1. Holidays and Special Occasions

The following schedule will take priority over the schedules in Sections 1 and 2.  Please check all that apply, place the name of the party with whom the children will be spending the holiday in the appropriate box (odd/even/all years), and indicate the time and place of exchange.

“P” = Petitioner “R” = Respondent

Event

 

Odd years Even years All Years Time & Place of exchange
Spring Break        
Easter        
Mother’s Day/Weekend        
Memorial Day/Weekend        
Father’s Day/Weekend        
July 4th        
Labor Day/Weekend        
Thanksgiving Day/Break        
First Half of Winter Break        
 Second Half of Winter Break        
Children’s Birthdays        
Other (Identify)        
Other (Identify)        
Other (Identify)        

 

Other parenting time arrangements:

 

  1. Telephone Access

Each party may have reasonable telephone contact with the child(ren) during the child(ren)’s normal waking hours.

Other:                                                                                                                                                      

 

  1. Travel and Vacation Plans

 

The parties agree that should either of them require out-of-state or any type of overnight travel with the child(ren), each party will inform the other party of such travel and vacation plans, including notice and contact information.

 

Other:

 

 

Financial Obligations for the Benefit of the Child(ren)

 

  1. Child Support Calculation

 

The amount of child support agreed to by the parties is based upon the attached Child Support Worksheet which reflects an amount of child support of $___________ per month.

(Go to: https://childsupport.wyoming.gov/calculator/index.html)

or

The amount of child support agreed to by the parties is not based upon the attached Child Support Worksheet which reflects an amount of child support of $__________ per month. Please identify the agreed upon amount and the reasons why you agree to deviate from the amount identified in the Child Support Worksheet.  (The Court must approve any deviation from the guideline amount and will do so only for compelling reasons if this amount is lower than the guideline amount.)

 

  1. Medical, Dental, Vision, and Mental Health Insurance and Extraordinary/Out-of Pocket Medical Expenses

 

Respondent shall provide medical dental vision mental health insurance for the child(ren).  If not all children, please identify the names of the children who will be receiving insurance:                                                             

and/or

Petitioner shall provide medical dental vision mental health insurance for the child(ren).  If not all children, please identify the names of the children who will be receiving insurance: ________________________

and/or

Extraordinary Medical Expenses are defined as uninsured expenses, including co-payments and deductible amounts in excess of $250.00 per child per calendar year.  The parties agree that extraordinary medical, dental, vision, or mental health expenses for the child(ren) shall be divided with the Respondent paying ___________ %,  the Petitioner paying ____________%.

Other:                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            

  1. Extraordinary Expenses (Child care, school/sport/extracurricular activities, etc.)

You may use this section to document any agreements made between the parties that are not required by law to be addressed such as child care, extracurricular and recreational activities, automobile access or insurance, or any other agreements affecting the general welfare of the child(ren). 

The parties agree to the following:

 

Child Tax Exemption

Only one party may claim a deduction for each child on his/her income tax return.  Both parties agree to prepare appropriate IRS forms, for example, Form 8332 “Release of Claim to Exemption for Child of Divorced or Separated Parents” IRS link to forms:  https://www.irs.gov/formspubs/index.html

“P” = Petitioner “R” = Respondent

Full Name of Child Deduction to be claimed every year by: Deduction to be claimed during odd years Deduction to be claimed during even years
  P R   P R   P R  
  P R   P R   P R  
  P R   P R   P R  
  P R   P R   P R  

Other:

 

Section F:           Other Terms

The Petitioner Respondent will change their name back to their maiden name of:

                                                                                                .

The parties will exchange financial information on an annual basis, for example, income, verification of insurance and its costs.

Identify below any issues or agreements not already identified in this agreement.

 

The information on this website is for general information purposes only. Nothing on this site should be taken as legal advice for any individual case or situation. This information is not intended to create, and receipt or viewing does not constitute, an attorney-client relationship.